A couple of weeks ago I headed from my workplace to the Duke and Duchess in central London to my first ever Scarlet Ladies Talk panel. If you haven't heard of them before, Scarlet Ladies Talk is a female members club that holds panel talks and events that frankly, openly and honestly discuss sex, femininity, 'femaleness' and everything in between in a safe, non-judgmental space.
The panel on this occasion was made up of Franki Cookney, a married and pregnant polyamorous journalist, Catherine Dunworth, boss at all things tantric, Alyssa Black, kinkster and trans activist, and Jannette Davies, a masturbation evangelist and half of the founding team behind Scarlet Ladies. The panel was moderated by Alix Fox, who is an absolutely hilarious sex educator and journalist.
|L to R: Jannette, Catherine, Alix, Alyssa and Frankie|
|Cocktails that looked like boobies were drunk|
Every single one of the contributors (plus Alix, who is an ambassador for Brook) spoke candidly about their experiences, what they wanted from female sexuality, how the conversation around female sexuality was changing and what we could each do to help this shift in a positive way. It was so great to be around so much positive energy and informed, smart women who were all working towards the same goal.
And look, I'm not a prude. I'm really, really not. But I'll admit straight up that I was a bit nervous about being dragged into something I didn't feel comfortable with. And this just wasn't the case AT ALL. You wanted to ask a question, raise a topic for discussion, or add something to what's already being said? You go for it. You wanna sit there, drink a cocktail, and literally just listen to the conversation around you? Fair. That's cool too.
At the end of the night, despite arriving there in a somewhat shitty mood, I really didn't want to leave. It just felt like thirty or so friends in a room together, hanging out, talking about orgasms. You know. Like a big sleepover almost. Everybody was respectful of everybody else, opinions were listened to, stories were shared, and a giant vibrator was included in a tombola at the end of the night.
It was just a really open, honest, inclusive, and FUN evening. We also all got given a box of goodies at the end, including condoms, lube, and bath oils. Plus, there was a HUGE picture on Frida Kahlo on the wall behind us the whole time. Bonus points.
|Anywhere that has a mural of Frida Kahlo is OK in my book|
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