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Monday, 6 February 2017

If I'm An Introvert, I'm Completely OK With That

You know how there are actually still people who think being called a 'feminist' is an awful thing? That feminism is akin to man-hating, bra-burning, non-shaving angryness? Those people don't understand the definition of a 'feminist' as we all know it, but they're sure quick to lump people with the label.

Well, move over feminists (only if you want to, of course) - I think there's another thing going on here. It's about introverts.

In society, introversion is completely seen as a negative quality. You know - 'Oh, you're so INTROVERTED, why don't you come out of your shell/talk/socialise more?' The loud, outspoken people, the people who get their energy from being around people... they're the ones you want to hang with. Right? Introverts are boring, quiet, and sometimes just downright rude. They're just not fun people to shoot the shit with.

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But what actually *is* an introvert?

Introverts are people who find energy from being by themselves, as opposed to finding their energy from other people. According to Carl Jung, if you leave work or school at the end of the day and feel like you have to 'recharge' from the pressure of being around other people all day, you, my friend, are an introvert.

There are a few reasons why being seen to be 'introverted' seems to come with negative connotations. Humans are biologically wired to be social, to do the family thing and help fight off tigers in packs and historical stuff like that. At work, you're nearly always going to be required to work in a team or communicate with other people. People like to get together, to have parties, attend events, celebrate birthday, weddings, and more. Somebody who DOESN'T like doing this stuff looks rude.

But. But but but. This narrative just isn't correct, and it comes with a whole heap of misconceptions about introverts. What being an introvert DOESN'T mean:
  • you're depressed
  • you're antisocial 
  • you can't 'do' small talk
  • you prefer to be alone all of the time
  • you're lonely 
  • you don't like people
Photos tend to paint a picture of an introvert sitting in a darkened room, staring out of a window with a duvet wrapped around them. They seem unhappy. They're rarely pictured enjoying themselves: reading, writing, catching up on TV, tidying their room, having a bath. Things that most people like to do - the only difference is, introverts probably like to do it a bit more than people who doesn't consider themselves introverted. Most introverts don't cut off all social interaction, refuse every party invitation and keep a countdown clock next to them of when it's time to leave work all the end of the day.
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I think that there are actually a ton of good things about introversion, or being in an introverted mood. These include:
  • it can help to clear your mind
  • it can help with creativity
  • it can allow you to recharge to work harder towards your goals
  • it can act as a powerful form of self-care
Famous introverts include Albert Einstein, Rosa Parks, Steven Spielberg, J.K. Rowling, Hillary Clinton, Mahatma Gandhi, Meryl Streep and Audrey Hepburn. Creative, deep thinkers, who put a lot of energy into projects that, ultimately, have helped a hell of a lot of people. It's not a bad list to put yourself alongside, if you consider yourself 'introverted'.

And of course, when it comes down to it, it's pretty far-fetched to think that you're either an introvert or an extrovert, all day every day. I think it's probably a lot more likely that a lot of people are a mixture, depending on the day. There are days where I feel more extroverted, or days where I feel more introverted. I love to go out and get brunch or a drink, to bounce off of other people and learn things and discover opportunities. But afterwards, I like to come home, stick a face mask on, get into some clean PJs and fire up Gilmore Girls. I love this alone time. I need the balance. It lets me recharge. When we stop thinking about introversion and extroversion in such black and white terms, we can begin to appreciate the positive qualities of both.

Am I an introvert? I have absolutely no idea. But if I do decide that I'm comfortable with that label at any point, that's exactly what I'm going to be, knowing that my introversion, in a lot of cases, helps me towards my end goals - comfortable, no, happy, with it.

Hannah x

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  1. I loved this post and I feel like it's taught me a lot about myself which I didn't even know! Definitely a proud introvert right here. Great piece gal!x

  2. Great post :) I like how even though you aren't sure whether you are an introvert or not you are still sticking up for us! I am an extroverted introvert if that's even possible? I'm really social and love being around people but I need time to myself to recharge everyday or I got really tired and grumpy.

    Hannah x


  3. Great post. I think for a long time I definitely saw being an introvert something I needed to fix or change. Now I'm just like 'ok, I need a day or two to recover' and that's fine!

  4. I loved this xmovies8net and I feel like it's taught me a lot about myself which I didn't learn from my real life.


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